Seeing Us In Them

I haven’t blogged about family in a while. Partly because the older the girls get the more they read the blog, so the more at risk I am for embarrassing them. But, I can share the following story safely. I think all parents and relatives have a keen eye for who looks like who in the family or which kid has a personality more like so-and-so. It’s this sort of game families all play, the Mugeles included. The  other day I watched a conversation between the girls and was left laughing at how exactly that looked like Josh and me. So here’s a fun game for my family and friends: In the story I tell, which kid is more like me and which kid is more like Josh.

Kid X and kid Y are sitting in the stairwell, squished close together on the same step, waiting for me to finish whatever I was doing in the kitchen so that we could all go to dinner. X was chewing bubble gum. Y was watching X. X began to blow a bubble but sucked it back in and said to Y, “Don’t pop it. I want to see how big I can get it.”

Y agrees, but keeps a steady eye on her sister as she blows a bubble. X proceeds to blow a very big bubble and Y points her finger at it. X leans back as Y’s finger gets closer, then retracts, then finally pokes a hole in the bubble. X looks at Y and says with equal parts frustration and disappointment, “I told you not to.”

Y says guiltily, “I know. I couldn’t help it. It was so tempting.”

X tries to resign herself to her sister’s nature. “Ugh. I know, but I really didn’t want you to do that.”

So, who is Eleanor in the story and who is Magnolia? AND: who is Jody and who is Josh?

Published by jody sparks

Jody Sparks Mugele spent her first career in marketing writing and leading teams of writers and editors. After her son came out as transgender in 2015, she dedicated herself to advocating for the rights of the LGBTQ+ community. For two years, she led the Indianapolis regional chapter of PFLAG, a nationally renowned LGBTQ+ advocacy group. She has given many conference talks about parenting trans kids, healthcare in the trans community, and suicidality among LGBTQ+ youth. And with GenderNexus, an Indianapolis-based advocacy organization, she created programming and led support groups to work with parents to help their children through all aspects of gender transition. She recently moved to Northeast Georgia where she is excited to develop opportunities to continue to strongly and proudly advocate for LGBTQ+ members of our society. She also LOVES kitschy Christmas crafting!

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