Are You an Adder or Subtracter?

I’ve noticed this: whenever I find myself looking for a way to change/improve on something, I add something into my life. If I want to lose weight, I add exercise because giving up peanut butter, mint M&M’s and bacon makes me sad. If I want to be a better YA writer, I tend to add learning/research/networking to my agenda instead of say, trimming back those things to focus on practicing. If I’m sad, I add people to my presence. Same when I’m angry – sorry, family! I need to vent.  But, I know many people want to be alone in those circumstances.

I’m not sure why I’m this way, but I found it fascinating. Which one are you? Maybe it goes in waves: add, add, add, whoa, subtract. Maybe it’s ping-pongy: add, subtract, add, subtract. Maybe you don’t really care and this is a lot like a magazine quiz. Hey, let’s do a poll!


If you chose Adder, you’ll end up living in a Mansion, having 2 kids with Johnny Depp, and driving a hybrid to your film-directing job.

If you chose Subtracter, you’ll end up living in a Shack, having 20 kids with Steve Buschemi, and driving a Rascal to your poo-scooping job.

If you chose “It goes in waves,” you’ll end up in a Mansion, having 2 kids with Johnny Depp, and driving a hybrid to your poo-scooping job.

If you chose “Ping Pongy,” you’ll end up in Mansion, having 20 kids with Johnny Depp, and driving a Rascal to your film-directing job.

If you chose “Jody is nice,” you’ll end up in Indianapolis having crepes I baked for you; and then we’ll tell secrets and braid each other’s hair. And watch Goonies and Karate Kid.

Published by jody sparks

Jody Sparks Mugele spent her first career in marketing writing and leading teams of writers and editors. After her son came out as transgender in 2015, she dedicated herself to advocating for the rights of the LGBTQ+ community. For two years, she led the Indianapolis regional chapter of PFLAG, a nationally renowned LGBTQ+ advocacy group. She has given many conference talks about parenting trans kids, healthcare in the trans community, and suicidality among LGBTQ+ youth. And with GenderNexus, an Indianapolis-based advocacy organization, she created programming and led support groups to work with parents to help their children through all aspects of gender transition. She recently moved to Northeast Georgia where she is excited to develop opportunities to continue to strongly and proudly advocate for LGBTQ+ members of our society. She also LOVES kitschy Christmas crafting!

6 thoughts on “Are You an Adder or Subtracter?

  1. After viewing the results, I’ve decided to change my vote to Adder. Although maybe I could live in Indianapolis and we could do all the stuff on your list except Goonies. That was after my time. So was Karate Kid, but I’m willing to compromise for you, Jody. 🙂

  2. Despite being an introvert who craves quiet, alone time, it seems I’m an “adder.” There’s always something to research and add to my novel to give it more depth, and this year I added two high school foreign exchange students to my family. Why do I make my life crazy on purpose? I seem to have found the perfect way to procrastinate on the never-ending publishing journey…

  3. I’m an adder. (who wants to take things out of their life??)
    But i didn’t chose that in the pole, because who can resist an option like “Jody is nice”?

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